When Kids Bring Home Problems

July 29th, 2011

by Katrina Brooke

Connor was having trouble making friends. “None of the cool kids will play with me. Only the dopey kids will,” he complained.
“Oh, no,” Dad said with a wrinkled forehead and sadness in his eyes. “That sounds rough. What do you think you can do about that?”
“I don’t know,” Connor whined. “The teachers won’t help me.”
“Hmm,” Dad paused. “Would you like to hear what some other kids have tried?”
Connor grunted, “Guess so.”
“Well,” Dad continued, “some kids decide to forget about having friends. How would that work for you?”
“Not good. I’ll never have people to do stuff with.”
“Yeah, good thinking,” said Dad. “Some kids decide to pick out some cool – or maybe just nice kids and try to be super friendly to them. They go out of their way to say nice things – stuff like that. How do you think that would work for you?”
Connor thoughtfully frowned. “I guess I could try that. But what if it doesn’t work?”
Dad replied, “It’ll be interesting to see, won’t it? That’s all the ideas I have right now. Thanks for telling me about this. Good luck, buddy.”
Connor’s dad gave him the gift of struggling with a problem. Many Love and Logic parents have enjoyed empowering their kids to solve problems using this five-step process:
  1. Respond with empathy: “That’s a tough one.”
  2. Send the power message: “Would you like to hear what some kids have tried?”
  3. Offer ideas: “Some kids decide to…”
  4. Ask about the expected results: “How do you think that would work for you?”
  5. Give permission to solve the problem: “Let me know how it goes. Good luck.”

Weekly Tip from the Love and Logic® Experts

Have fun experimenting with this technique next time your child brings home a problem regarding friendships, or just about anything else.
Thanks for reading! Our goal is to help as many families as possible. If this is a benefit, forward it to a friend.
Dr. Charles Fay
©2011 Love and Logic Institute, Inc.


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