As your children grow up, it’s natural for them to challenge you. Sometimes, it seems easier to just let them have their way. But all youngsters need limits, and they need parents to guide them.  Discipline works best with a balance of love, respect, clearly defined rules, and understanding. Here are some secrets of effective discipline. Make the rules clear Children do best when they know what to expect. Talk about family rules, explaining the consequences clearly. For example, for a rule such as “Take care of belongings,” you might tell them if they leave their bikes out, they don’t get to ride them the next day. As your youngsters learn to read, write down the rules and put them on the refrigerator as a reminder. Tip: Children are more likely to remember the rules if there are a few broad ones, rather than many specific ones. Be consistent and firm You can expect your youngsters to “test” the rules from time to time. When they do, try to stand your ground and apply the set consequences. Being firm and consistent lets them know that you mean business. Give positive feedback Try to focus more on what your children do right than on what they do wrong. This will encourage them to try even harder to behave. So, when you see behavior you’d like repeated, let them know. Example: “Thanks for hanging up your coat and backpack!” ♥   http://www.rfeonline.com